As a child I was always late, always losing things and messy. Boisterous and talked too much. Always said things I later regretted. Written off by teachers as “smart but lazy and immature” with no desire to work hard at anything, no concern about my future. Deemed a disappointment by family members and close friends for not pursuing my potential.
No one considered that anything was wrong with me because I was smart and because I was a girl.
High school was way too easy. But when I got to college I crashed and burned. No discipline. No study skills. No one to hold me accountable. I barely graduated.
After college I worked in retail for 14 years and then entered a bank manager training program. I was promoted to branch manager halfway through, but between overwhelm and imposter’s syndrome, I sabotaged my job and was fired.
Right before that, I found out what adult ADHD was, and that I probably had it. I was 37. I spent months reflecting on all those years I wish I had back. I spent the next 15 years spinning my wheels trying to figure out how to successfully manage my ADHD, with and without meds, while trying to be a good wife, mother and employee. I couldn’t find the right therapist that could help me. They either focused on “underlying issues”, imposed strategies that didn’t work, or straight out didn’t believe in ADHD.
That’s when I knew what I wanted to do. I wanted to help people like me. Educate and help them with well-advised information and let them know that THEY ARE OK. I wanted to make the world aware of ADHD and that THE STRUGGLE IS REAL.
As an African American female coach with ADHD I am passionate about reaching girls like me and giving them the necessary tools to succeed in college and life. As an adult with ADHD I intend to help adults manage their ADHD to where they can truly see past the mountain in front of them, and into the future, with hope.